Archive for the 'Personal' Category

10
Nov
11

Exfm: A Brief Review

Since the demise of Lala, which had previously been my favorite music site, I’ve been experimenting with different sites in an attempt to find a new favorite. Both Slacker and Pandora are adequate, although neither are very good at helping me find new music and despite numerous attempts to “teach” it my preferences, Pandora continues to slip in the occasional death metal tune even though I absolutely despise the genre. I like Last.fm a little better, since it gives users the option of indexing your library and listening history from third party programs such as iTunes or Windows Media Player and incorporating that information along with your activity on the site to give you more personalized recommendations. I had been using Last.fm almost exclusively until I learned about Exfm, a site that scours music blogs for MP3s. Exfm is fully integrated with Twitter, Facebook, Tumblr and Last.fm so that users can browse and collect MP3s and then share them with their social network, as well as follow other users to see what they are listening to and what new music they have discovered. Browser extensions for Chrome, Firefox and Safari and an iPhone app are also helpful. I’ve only used the site for about a month but so far I like what I see. Exfm is excellent for discovering new music and the fact that it integrates so well with Last.fm makes it easy to go to Exfm when you’re in the mood for something new and then switch back to Last.fm when you want to listen something from your library – and all of your listening history will be recorded. If you enjoy discovering new music and sharing it with your social network, Exfm is definitely worth checking out.

21
Oct
11

New Projects

I’ve been busier than usual recently, taking on a variety of new volunteer projects and preparing to move back home to the Pacific Northwest (at last!). With everything going on, I haven’t had the time to keep up with this site but I have had fun with two new Tumblr blogs I’ve created: a politically-themed one called Liberal Slant and a personal one called Macondo Vida.  The simplicity of the Tumblr platform has made it easy for me to keep those blogs updated, even when I only have a few minutes a day to do so. I plan to return to work on this site once I get settled in my new home but until then, check out my new projects and let me know what you think!

06
Aug
11

How I spent my summer vacation

Just a couple days after summer school was over, my son and I packed our bags and flew to Seattle.  Although I’m a Navy brat who grew up moving to a different military base every two or three years, my parents settled in the Seattle area when my father retired and it was there that I went to college, married, and gave birth to my son. Even though we’ve lived in Arizona for nearly a decade, we travel back to Seattle frequently to visit family and, in many ways, it still feels like home. Trips back to Seattle during the summer are especially enjoyable, as the contrast between the blazing oven-like heat of the Arizona desert and the cool temperate climate of the Pacific Northwest always makes me wonder why I’ve chosen to live in such an inhospitable environment (although the next time I visit Seattle in the winter and the cold wet weather causes my joints to ache, I remember that living in a warmer climate does have its benefits).

Gazebo

The gazebo at my parent's house

When we go home, we stay with my parents in Bremerton on the Kitsap peninsula. They live in a lovely 1930′s era cottage on a large wooded lot with a peekaboo view of Oyster Bay. It’s very quiet, peaceful and picturesque, complete with lush grounds and a garden gazebo. I always end up feeling guilty because while I’m there, my parents end up doting on me and despite my best intentions, I usually end up letting them. I am their only child and my son is their only grandchild and besides the fact that they love us both dearly, they also love to entertain so staying with them is almost like staying in a lovely little bed and breakfast. Since I am usually taking care of everyone else when I am at home, it is a rare treat to be taken care of while I am staying with my parents. We lived in Seattle for several years so we have quite a few friends and family that still live in the area and each trip back gives us an opportunity to catch up. My son has friends he’s known since he was in diapers that he still keeps in touch with, even though they’re now in high school. We feel a connection not only to the people that we know there but also to the place itself. I love riding the ferry across the Sound and just walking around the city. The time I spent as a young college student, living in a historic 1920′s era apartment in the U-District and attending the University of Washington, was among the happiest times of my life.

When the time comes for us to return to Arizona, I always feel conflicted. I always miss some things (mainly my bed and my cats) but I also feel like I’m leaving a place with which I have a great affinity. I think the desert is beautiful but it has never felt like home to me. In an ideal world, I’d have a winter home in the Southwest and a summer home in the Northwest: that way I could take advantage of what I like most about each place. Until then, however, I have to make a choice and at this point, for purely practical reasons, I have to choose Arizona as my primary residence and visit Seattle as often as I can. I hope, however, that my circumstances change and I will be able to return to living in the Northwest full-time in the not-too-distant future.

31
Jul
11

Google Plus anyone?

Work has been slow for the last couple weeks so I’ve had some time to check out Google Plus. I’m still getting used to the site but so far, I’m impressed with its potential. I especially like its ability to classify your contacts in to different “Circles” and then share information with some or all of those groups of people – or with only one (or more) individuals. The site is still in Beta so there are definitely quite a few issues that still need to be worked out but because of the potential for greater flexibility than what is currently offered by other social networks, I am cautiously optimistic about the future of Google Plus. If you decide to join, feel free to look me up: +Courtnay Stout Brown

03
Jun
11

Dreaming of Andalucia

Torre del antiguo convento de la Merced, en Ro...

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Just a few days after my high school graduation, my mother and I left our home in southern California to reunite with my father in Spain, where he had been stationed on a joint US/Spanish Naval base in the small Andalucian town of Rota for nearly a year. The first day that I stepped off the plane on to the sizzling tarmac on a sweaty June day and got my first look at the unimpressive base, I was more than a little disappointed. I had been so excited to come to Spain, dreaming of all the things I would do and see but so far this didn’t look much different than any number of crappy little towns in California. We were hot and exhausted from the long trip so my dad took us to his quarters so we could rest – sightseeing would have to wait until tomorrow. I don’t know that I’ve ever appreciated air conditioning and fresh, clean sheets as much as I did that night. I showered and tucked my exhausted and over-heated body in to bed and slept for what seemed like 18 hours. When I woke up, I was ready to check out my surroundings. My dad piled us in to his little Seat sedan (a Spanish made car) and took us first on a tour of the base, which didn’t look nearly as scrappy as I had first imagined. Then we drove through the small town of Rota, which consisted mainly of shops that catered to the base clientele but redeemed itself with a couple of nice plazas. Next we drove through El Puerto de Santo Maria, a small fishing village that looked much more like what I had imagined a little Spanish village to look like: whitewashed homes with tiled roofs, lovely little shops, young people on mopeds. My dad told us that until we could get housing on base, he had rented a house for us in “El Puerto” – it was a 4 bedroom townhouse within walking distance of the beach. From the first time I saw it, I was in love. We had our own small gated courtyard in both the front and back of the house and tile everywhere. That first summer, I’d leave the windows open on the balcony of my second story bedroom and the scent from the flowering vines was intoxicating. I remember thinking that I felt at home: a profound thought for a Navy brat who has spent her life on the move, never really putting down roots anywhere.

We lived in Spain for three years, although for part of that time I left my parents’ home to attend college at an American university in Germany. While I was away at school, Spain was home and I returned there for holidays. During these trips home, I took the train from Germany to Spain, which gave me the opportunity to see more of the countryside. I love each of Spain’s larger cities: Barcelona, Madrid, Bilbao, Granada, Cadiz…but Sevilla holds a special place in my heart. I spent many happy hours wandering through cathedrals and plazas there, the scent of orange blossoms filling the air, and although it has now been nearly 20 years since I was last there, the memories are as fresh today as they were then. In fact, every year when the orange trees in my backyard are in bloom, I am reminded once again of my time in Sevilla.

I have been thinking recently that when my son goes off to college, I would like to return to Spain. For years, I have wanted to live abroad but it is so complicated to do when you have a young child to worry about. If I had it all to do over again, I might have just gone ahead and moved overseas and homeschooled him the whole time through a virtual charter school – traveling the world probably would have provided the better education. But I thought providing him with stability in his education was the best thing and now he is entering his junior year in high school so it’s too late to change course. So anyway…I’d like to travel so I’m thinking of completing a certification for teaching English as a foreign language so that I’d have that skill to offer. Between that and travel writing, I should be able to support myself and fund my travels. Now all I have to do is just do it.

21
May
11

(Not so) Deep thoughts

Three rubber ducks in foam bath

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So life has been hectic for the last few months and as I always do when that happens, I’ve been neglecting my own personal writing projects again. I have plenty of ideas rattling around in my head and some of them even see the light of day when I find time to scribble them down in one of the Moleskine notebooks that I keep with me at all times…but most of them stay confined to the deep recesses of my imagination, only allowed to come forward and show themselves on the rare occasions when I have the time and space to daydream. My current favorite venue for this activity is the bath tub. There are several reasons why this is the ideal spot for creative thinking. First of all, as any mother knows, once you have a child there really is no such thing as privacy anymore. Your children will follow you around the house without any regard for what activity you might be engaging in – if they “need” you, they don’t care what you’re doing. But now that my son is a teenager, he’s a little creeped out at the thought of seeing me naked so if I say that I’m going to be taking a bath before heading in to the bathroom, I can be assured that he won’t come in and bother me unless the house is on fire. Also, I’ve always been the kind of person who finds a hot bath extremely relaxing. I run the water as hot as I can stand it, add some epsom and sea salts to soothe my achy joints along with some lavender and bubble bath, light some candles, turn on some music, and soak until I get prune hands…pure bliss! Soaking in a deep, warm tub feels very safe and nurturing to me…so much so that I spent so long laboring in the bath tub at home that my son was almost born on the ferry to Seattle. I was scheduled to deliver at a hospital in Seattle that had only a couple birthing suites with hot tubs so the midwife had advised me that if it was important to me to use a hot tub during my labor, I should call ahead when I realized I was going to be coming in to request one of the suites. But when I called, I was told no suites were available…so I decided to stay at home in my own comfy tub as long as possible, which ended up causing a little bit of a panic in a deserted ferry restroom on the way to the hospital later that evening but since everything turned out just fine, I still love hot baths. I feel like I can think more clearly while soaking in the bath: outlines for screenplays, novels, short stories and more all fill my head, different ideas competing for attention in what is a suddenly crowded field. On a day to day basis, I feel like I get bogged down with the mundane: what medication to take and when, going to seemingly endless medical appointments, taking my son to school and his appointments, household errands, finding time for work, etc. It takes so much time and energy just to make it through the day (and sometimes I don’t make it through – sometimes I’m so exhausted by late afternoon or early evening that I collapse on my bed, absolutely spent) that there is usually simply nothing left over for creative pursuits. May is Lupus Awareness Month and someone from the LFA asked me to contribute something to a project that they were working on where lupus patients and family members were sharing stories about how lupus impacted their lives. I haven’t finished my contribution yet (of course!) but the main point of my piece was that lupus is an incredibly frustrating illness, not only because of the debilitating pain and fatigue and the unpredictable nature of the flares, but also because sometimes you can’t help but grieve for the life that you lost before you got sick or that you might have had if it had never happened. A systemic autoimmune disorder like this changes every aspect of your life and while I don’t want to live my life in bitterness and regret, I think it is important to recognize and acknowledge these feelings…I can’t deal with them and move on if I don’t. So anyway…in the warm embrace of a hot bath, I can ease away not only my physical aches and pains but my mental burdens as well. For an hour or so, I can let my mind wander not in the boring and constraining world of reality but in the expansive and exhilarating world of creative potential. Until I can move there permanently, at least I have a temporary refuge.




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